Closing the distance is the ultimate goal of any long distance relationship.
When that time comes for you and your partner you will be overwhelmed with emotions.
Because one of you is saying goodbye to their entire world.
While the other one has to make preparations for the arrival.
You are going to miss your family and friends and all the normal parts of your old life.
You know nothing will be the same as where you are moving to.
Then on top of that stress, you have the stress about customs and border guards, wondering if you’ll make it through alright.
But that question is still in the back of your mind:
“Will they believe that you are trying to see your partner so you can finally live with them after all these years?”
Closing the distance now might be harder than it ever has for a couple before.
As a community, some of our friends still haven’t been able to reunite with their loved ones because of these regulations.
And it’s too early to tell what it’s going to look like in the future.
Just like that, closing the distance, the moment you have been waiting for.
Then your relationship is suddenly filled with stress and anxiety.
It doesn’t have to be that way, you can close the distance without the stress that I had to face.
Let me guide you so you can finally feel fully prepared and ready to close the distance.
When Tuomas and I Closed the Distance, it was at a weird time globally.
Suddenly your passport no longer mattered, all that mattered was how prepared you were.
I would not have felt prepared at all for closing the distance if it wasn’t for my binder.
My binder kept everything important. From the proof of our relationship to the proof of my identity.
Then the moment came where I would actually have to use it.
I will never forget it. I had just gotten off the loveliest flight of my life.
The steward was amazing and he even wrote me a nice postcard congratulating me on my journey and the new life I would be starting with Tuomas.
All that bubbly feeling stopped as soon I met the border guard in Amsterdam.
Maybe he was annoyed that I was so bubbly at 5 am or just hated his job.
Guess I’ll never know.
I was so confident too, this girl next to me in line was going to Amsterdam for the same reason and they let her in fine.
But I got questioned…
That’s when I pulled out my Closing the Distance Binder.
In there I had all the information about our relationship, proof of my identity and his, as well as the laws that said I was able to visit Finland as his fiance.
The guy mumbled under his breath “You sure are prepared”.
At this point, I was in my feelings.
But I smiled politely
“Yes, I am excited to finally be with my fiance, after over a year without seeing him. My wedding dress is in the carry-on luggage. I can pull it out for you if you’d like.”
He looked at me and returned my binder and passport letting me through.
At that moment I felt so relieved. Relieved that I prepared for so long and had all the information available.
Then I wondered, how many couples were denied from seeing their partner.
That’s why I wanted to share the Binder Set that helped us to Close the Distance.
The Binder Set was Designed to Help You: organizing all your most important possessions and documents, showing you how to establish habits for self-care and relationship check-ins during the process.
The Ultimate Packing Guide: help keep your luggage organized with in-depth packing tips and printable/fillable packing and suitcase list.
The Ultimate Self Care Journal: designed to help you and your partner reduce some stress before closing the distance, by giving you weekly and daily prompts and a mindset worksheet.
The Relationship Timeline Tracker: I’ll show you the documents that I brought with me to show the border guards and immigration in order to help us close the distance.
Stop worrying if you have everything packed and start getting excited about being able to start a life with them.
Learn what important documents you should include in your binder and get rid of the “Do I have everything?” fear.
Know EXACTLY what to pack in your suitcases, what documents you need to bring with you, AND how to give yourself and the relationship some much-needed love during this stressful time.
Grab a binder and get organized! You’ll have all your most important information easily accessible, right in your carry-on.
Seriously, stop worrying if you forgot to pack something.
Feel relaxed as you and your partner are about to start your new lives together.
Are you feeling stressed or overwhelmed about closing the distance?
Don’t worry I felt the exact same way before Tuomas and I finally moved together.
Especially during those last 2 weeks when I was packing and trying to keep myself organized.
I was so stressed that I almost had a panic attack while out with my family.
I didn’t have to be that stressed but there was nothing out there to help me prepare.
You see all the tips on how to survive an LDR but what about how to survive CTD?
Let me tell you, those last 2 weeks are rough, there is so much planning, packing that you need to do.
I was so stressed that I forgot how to take care of myself.
As a couple, we weren’t spending much time together so our relationship was becoming stressful.
It doesn’t have to be that way for you and your partner.
Y’all can close the distance feeling ready and fully prepared by using the strategies that we put into place in order to get our relationship mindset back on track.
We were in a long distance relationship for 3.5 years before we closed the distance.
After we got engaged we had planned on closing the distance in December 2020, but after everything that happened, we felt the urge to close the distance sooner.
In October of 2020, we closed the distance, now we want to help others and guide couples in their long distance journey so that they can also close the distance.
When I first started the blog it was because there was no information out there on how to close the distance.
No information about the things you would need to do before, and how to adjust to life after.
As not only an expatriate but also someone who is suddenly living together with your partner.
So my mission is to provide you the information you need for your long distance relationship to be a thriving, healthy relationship and to help your relationship flourish after closing the distance.
I have done everything in my power to make The Closing the Distance Binder Set the simplest, most effective long distance relationship preparation program available.
I KNOW it works because it’s the exact same tools and exercises we have used to overcome the distance.
If you’re undecided or if other relationship courses have left you skeptical, then I want to give you the chance to “buy it and try it” with confidence.
That’s why I’m giving you a FULL 30 DAYS to go through the CTD Binder Set, make use of the packing guide, ground yourself with self-care exercises, and feel fully prepared and organized with the important documents tracker.
Who Is The Closing the Distance Binder Set For?
If you are a couple that has set a date for closing the distance.
How Long Do You Have to Prepare the Binder Set?
You should give yourself at least 2 months to prepare all the information you will need in the Relationship Tracker. This time will depend on how long you have been in an LDR and how many Meet-Ups you have had.
Do I Need to Carry My Wedding Dress in a Carry-On Suitcase?
No, you don’t need to carry your wedding attire in a carry-on suitcase. I did because I was too afraid to mail it and would’ve had to pay extra to bring it on the flight.
How Many Suitcases Should I Carry?
This depends on you, I don’t recommend bringing more than 4, as it gets pretty expensive with the more you have and how heavy they are. But then again so does mailing your stuff. You may find carrying 4+ suitcases difficult so I advised against anything more than that.
How Can I Find Additional Documents for the Relationship Tracker?
Be sure to check out the requirements of the country you are moving to and with your partner about any additional documentation needed for the immigration and marriage process. I included for you what I needed to bring, every situation is different so please double-check what specific thing your country needs as laws are always changing.