How to Say Words of Affirmation in a Long Distance Relationship
At times life can be a little bit crazy. In those times words can have greater meanings to us. Simple phrases like “you got this” can be more powerful than we realize. They have such great power because they can raise our spirits when we are feeling weak.
Uplifting words and phrases are a part of the 5 Love Languages, known as Words of Affirmation.
It doesn’t always have to be words of phrases. In fact when it comes to my Snowman and I we are definitely sending memes to each other
I believe laughter cures everything 😂
It just has to be authentic and from the heart. Really consider what your partner would want to hear from you? Your partner might need your support and want you to understand their point of view. Other times your partner would want to know how much you appreciate them and how much you love them.
Words of Affirmation lets your partner know that you care about their existence and want them in your life.
8 Ways to Express Words of Affirmation in a Long Distance Relationship
If words of affirmation is your love language there’s a few things you need to remember.
Your partner isn’t always able to say exactly what you want to hear. No one is that perfect, even an AI would get on your nerves because it’s so perfect.
I may or may not have been inspired by a K-drama 🤖
Also, you need to let your partner know what kinds of things you want to hear. It may feel frustrating to tell them what you want them to say to you. But the more you talk about it, the better you and your partner will be in the future.
And don’t forget to check up on your partner’s love language. You might give love with words of affirmation but your partner could receive love with quality time.
It is easy to get caught up in the idea that with this love language you have to say the most perfect line every time. While actually, being authentic means that you are genuinely thinking of all the things you love about your partner.
Now all you have left to do is put it into words
With this love language it’s okay if your every word isn’t carefully planned. What matters the most is if what you’re saying is coming from your heart.
If you are getting caught up in what to say, then talk to your partner about it. Listening to what your partner has to say helps strengthen your communication with each other. It will also help you learn more about what your partner wants to hear from you.
Say “I Love You” A Lot
With this love language your partner is going to want to hear that you love them, you can’t skirt by with the
“Oh but they know I love them. Do I really need to say it?”
Yes, yes you do need to say it. 😉
Think of this as a reminder to tell your partner how you feel about them. Tell them that you love the way that they do something. Or just tell them that you love them for being them.
This love language doesn’t have to be excessive or over the top. Just authentic.
This is as simple as sending a text to your partner during the day just to say I love you. An “I love you” text lets your partner know that you are thinking of them and you care about them.
Acknowledge Your Partner
Have you ever noticed your partner do something amazing for you? Maybe they helped you with a problem or gave you a reminder for an upcoming project.
These are the moments where words of affirmation really shines. Acknowledge your partner by thanking them for the help you have received from them.
Be specific and let your partner know how they were involved in helping you complete these tasks. Most importantly, let your partner know that you couldn’t have done it without them.
Support Your Partner
Just like your partner being there to support you, support them when they are going through life. You can do this by sending your partner an encouraging text during the most hectic part of their day.
“I believe in you.”
“You can do it.”
Or send them a funny meme to help reduce some stress they might be feeling from their everyday life.
With long distance relationships it’s hard to physically be there for a person but thankfully we live in an age of technology so it isn’t as hard to support your partner.
The definition of empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. So when your partner tells you about their crazy day, pay attention and limit distractions.
Listen to your partner, ask questions so your partner can explain what made everything feel so crazy. Understand their side of the story and put yourself into their position.
Having empathy towards your partner teaches y’all how to be more patient and understanding towards your relationship.
Knowing how to empathize also reduces fights that can occur in relationships, since you’ll be able to understand where your partner is coming from on different issues.
Tell Your Partner How Much You Appreciate Them
If you haven’t noticed by now, there is a lot of talking involved with words of affirmation.
A lot of talking.
Which means your partner values you taking the time to tell them things, including how much you appreciate them.
One way to show appreciation is by thanking your partner. Thank you for helping me out with that problem, I couldn’t have done it without you. Or let them know how thankful you are to have them in your life.
Like I said, this love language deals a lot around talking and the words you say.
When you are showing your partner how much you appreciate them, remember to say thank you and try to limit saying I’m sorry when they help you with something.
If your partner has words of affirmation as their love language they would much rather hear how you helped them, rather than how you feel like you hindered them.
Compliment Your Partner
Just like telling your partner how much you appreciate them, complimenting them should be authentic and from the heart.
When you give your partner compliments it lets them know that they are doing something right. And that something right is helping y’all’s relationship grow into something stronger.
Giving compliments also makes your partner feel special, and that you care enough about them to say something.
Give Them Love Notes
So what if you find actually saying these types of things to be a little embarrassing and find yourself unable to say it due to nerves?
Write it down and send your partner a letter through the mail. Send them an email. Give them a text or send them a funny meme.
You can even send them an e-card if you’re feeling a bit more artistic.
Whatever you decide to do, just let your partner know that you love them. It will make your partner appreciate your actions and feel cherished by you.
Is Your Love Language Words of Affirmation?
If your love language is words of affirmation, help your partner out by letting them know what they should say and what kinds of things you would or would not like to hear. Also let your partner know to be authentic with what they say to prevent you from feeling parroted.
Words of Affirmation requires a deeper level of communication and trust. I can understand the beauty of this love language.
Having that deeper level of trust and communication is what builds love.
This is also when I think that even though my love languages are physical touch and quality time you can see how you need parts of all the love languages to build a strong relationship.
Words of affirmation isn’t my native love language, so with the support of my friend Megan I was able to learn more about the beauty of words of affirmation.
Thank you Megan!!
If your love language is words of affirmation let me know how I did with your love language or any other tips I should add!